Comments on: Don’t blow it! http://lifeatthebar.com/blog/index.php/2009/11/18/dont-blow-it/ Attorney development coaching for associates and partners Thu, 10 Dec 2009 18:39:08 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 By: Julie A. Fleming http://lifeatthebar.com/blog/index.php/2009/11/18/dont-blow-it/comment-page-1/#comment-31997 Julie A. Fleming Tue, 24 Nov 2009 15:06:02 +0000 http://lifeatthebar.com/blog/?p=979#comment-31997 Michelle, Thanks for your comment! You raise some good points. Remaining calm and in control of one's temper is sometimes a tall order, and yet it can keep situations from spiraling out of control. No need to be super-human, just aware of the choices we make. Michelle,

Thanks for your comment! You raise some good points. Remaining calm and in control of one’s temper is sometimes a tall order, and yet it can keep situations from spiraling out of control. No need to be super-human, just aware of the choices we make.

]]> By: Michelle Alford http://lifeatthebar.com/blog/index.php/2009/11/18/dont-blow-it/comment-page-1/#comment-31900 Michelle Alford Mon, 23 Nov 2009 18:17:34 +0000 http://lifeatthebar.com/blog/?p=979#comment-31900 I'm good at keeping calm in almost all situations, but I find that one of the hardest things to do is not to reflect other people's anger. If someone is yelling or raising their voice at me, it's difficult not to do the same in return. One thing to keep in mind, though, is that by remaining calm, you look like the reasonable one, regardless of what the disagreement is about. Also, if you're calm, the other person is likely to calm down, while if you respond in anger, they're almost definitely going to do the same. I’m good at keeping calm in almost all situations, but I find that one of the hardest things to do is not to reflect other people’s anger. If someone is yelling or raising their voice at me, it’s difficult not to do the same in return. One thing to keep in mind, though, is that by remaining calm, you look like the reasonable one, regardless of what the disagreement is about. Also, if you’re calm, the other person is likely to calm down, while if you respond in anger, they’re almost definitely going to do the same.

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