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Financial freedom

PiggybankAn anonymous email I received shortly after I began coaching haunts me.  This person (I don’t know whether male or female, but I’ll assume male here) wanted desperately to leave the practice.  He was responding to something I’d written, and he explained that he’d practiced law for nearly 20 years and hated it.  He never liked it, even in the beginning.  And yet, he wrote, he had no other choice, due to financial constraints, geography, and family expectations/requirements.  He felt destined to toil until his dying day, expecting that his stress level would keep him from living to retirement.  When I wrote to ask if he’d be open to a conversation, free of charge, to see if he might have some alternatives, he thanked me but declined: his children were in college and someone had to pay those bills, he had to finance retirement on the off chance that he’d live to see it, and he had no choice other than to continue plugging away and hoping for some unknown change to make things better.  It was, at the risk of being melodramatic, like a suicide note from the soul.

Fortunately, most of my clients are relatively happy in their careers and are seeking a tweak or to develop a strategy to improve their professional success and satisfaction.  Even those who consider leaving the practice are upbeat about their options, though challenges do pop up along the route.  I’ve noticed that some of the happiest lawyers are those who have created reasonable financial stability that allows options — in other words, financial freedom.

Is it possible to be financially free with as much as $100K in student loans, nevermind the other costs of living?  Yes. It’s not only possible, it’s necessary for a sustainable career.  And freedom absolutely does not require millions in the bank and no debt.  It requires careful choices and attention.

One of the biggest mistakes I see in new lawyers, especially those pulling down the $160K “big firm” salaries, is living the lifestyle full out.  The new BMW, the gorgeous condo, all of those nice accoutrements that seem like a fair reward for the hard work required to reach that earning level — if not purchased carefully, they turn into the proverbial golden handcuffs. 

Some of the most disappointed professionals I know (this isn’t at all limited to lawyers) are those who literally bought into the lifestyle and then found it impossible to leave.  Others work as hard as they can, not to advance their careers, but because they fear that if they let up even a little bit they’ll be fired.  Sometimes that fear is realistic, especially in the current economy.  Handling it comes through taking an objective look at the likelihood of getting fired and working to create value.  Creating a contingency plan with a cushion of savings and a good network (in case a new job is in order) often helps as much or more.

Now, let’s be honest: anyone who knows me knows that I enjoy travel and impulse buys as much as the next person.  I’m not urging an ascetic lifestyle, nor am I recommending the kinds of budget cuts that reduce reasonable day-to-day comfort.  What I do recommend is living with enough of a financial cushion that a brief period of unemployment, whether voluntary or otherwise, wouldn’t be a catastrophe.  Living the $160K (or $100K or $250K or whatever the figure may be) lifestyle requires you stay at that level of income and eliminates a host of choices that would otherwise exist.

Are you wearing golden handcuffs?  What changes can you implement today to begin to build your financial freedom?  And remember not to look at this question just from the perspective of what you might eliminate: business development activity may create a book of business that will give you a measure of security worthy of the investment required to get it.

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Freedom of Expression

While describing an assessment I often use to a lawyer-client, I mentioned that it provides feedback about one’s natural tendencies and those tendences as adapted to work, explaining that almost everyone wears a “mask” of some sort at work.

“You got that right,” my client chuckled wryly. 

We went on to discuss the discomfort this client feels in the workplace.  She chooses not to be herself in the office, to rein in the zany and hilarious side of herself (Read the rest of the entry…)

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Freedom to choose

Jake the DogIt’s been a busy weekend at the Fleming-Brown household.  One of my dogs, Jake, is the most cowardly animal I’ve ever met when it comes to thunderstorms — and the most wily.  Both dogs sleep downstairs in crates, mostly because my cat would become a canape if they were allowed free reign at night.  We’ve been having thunderstorms in Atlanta lately, and Jake has become an escape artist extraordinaire.  Despite latches at the top and bottom of the door and reinforcements added on a daily basis, Jake has learned to escape his crate.  (Had I been his first family, with naming privileges, I would have named him Houdini, since the Create Escape is just the latest in a long line of breaks.)  I don’t know why he wants to escape, and my guess is that he doesn’t either.  He hears a clap of thunder, and his reaction is, I gotta get out of here! 

I’d decided to write on the theme of freedom this week, in honor of July 4, and today’s post is particularly motivated by Jake. 

Stephen Covey, perhaps best known as the author of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, said this about freedom: “Between stimulus and response is our greatest power - the freedom to choose.” (Read the rest of the entry…)

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Client development and satisfaction: Cole Silver interview

A few weeks ago, I had the pleasure of meeting Cole Silver, attorney and certified marketing consultant.  He interviewed me as a part of his Expert Audio Series, and we had a marvelous conversation about leadership development in law firms.  (That interview will be coming soon on the blog, but if you would like to receive it now, please send an email to latbinterview AT aweber.com.)  I decided to turn the table and interview Cole, because the more I talked with him, the more intrigued I became about his work and his point of view on client development and client service.  Here’s an excerpt from the transcript:

Cole: You know what?  It’s really in a sense not fair in a way that things have changed.  I’m in my 50s so I’ve lived through it.  When I graduated law school you just had to be a good lawyer.  If you stayed at one firm you made partner.  Everything was pretty good.  You were going to stay there and life was going to be pretty good.

But somewhere along the line the rules completely changed.  Now we are completely measured (Read the rest of the entry…)

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Blogging renaissance

Those of you who have been reading my blog for a while now may have noticed a rather precipitous drop-off in the frequency of my blogging this year.  I confess!  As is so often true, that drop-off represents as a mix of good news and bad news.  The bad news is I didn’t achieve the blogging goals I set for myself, and I really dislike missing my goals.  I haven’t even been keeping up with reading other blogs, leading to my second declaration of blog bankruptcy

The good news is that I’ve been doing a lot of other writing this year: articles for The Complete Lawyer and a few other publications, plus weekly articles/notes on aspects of leadership for my own newsletter Leadership Matters for Lawyers.  (If you haven’t signed up for Leadership Matters for Lawyers yet, you can do so right now by filling in the box that appears at the top of the middle column on the blog or by clicking this link.  You can, of course, unsubscribe any time.)  I’ve also had speaking engagements nearly every week (some public, many not) and I continue working with wonderful lawyers who hire me for coaching. 

And I’ve been hard at work on a project to help manage the flood of emails we all receive (and send) daily.  I’ve finally discovered the secrets to keeping my in-box clear and making email work for me, not drown me.  Following clients requests, I’m working to make the method available.  You’ll hear more about this soon.

So, for those who’ve wondered if I’m dumping the blog, the resounding answer is NO!  (And thank you for your emails checking on me.)  The work I’ve been doing has generated quite a bit of content that I’m eager to share, thus the blogging renaissance.  Check back soon (or follow the posts as summarized every other week in Leadership Matters for Lawyers) to see the new content.

Coming tomorrow: are your clients happy with your services?  Listen in as I interview Cole Silver, lawyer and marketing expert, talk about business development and what your clients wish you knew about working with them.�

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Three Obstacles to Rainmaking Success

I’ve been doing a lot of speaking and coaching lately on business development, and someone asked a great question: what are the top obstacles to rainmaking success? 

I’ve identified three universal challenges.  Do any of these sound uncomfortably familiar to you? (Read the rest of the entry…)

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When personal life impacts professional life

One of the ways that I describe the work I do is “professional and personal coaching for lawyers.”   Although I occasionally do what amounts to life coaching for someone who happens to be a lawyer, my passion lies in helping lawyers develop their professional lives, which often relates in some way to their personal lives.  We are, after all, people first and lawyers second.

Sometimes, the relationship between the professional and personal sides of life becomes blurred.  That may be a work/life balance issue that calls for reflection on the degree, if any, to which the lawyer wants to separate the two. 

But sometimes, a lawyer will experience a personal problem that he can’t keep entirely separate from his professional life.  Serious illness is one example, (Read the rest of the entry…)

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Want to make more rain? Be a better leader.

Leaders are better rainmakers.  Bold statement, isn’t it?  But think about it.  Would you easily place your trust in someone who manages a team of worker bees who don’t make much individual contribution - knowing that if the manager goes down, the team will at best miss a few beats?   Or would you select someone who is skilled in assembling a strong team and evoking high performance from its members? 

 

Clients generally hire lawyers, not firms, but clients count on the lawyers to assemble and run the teams necessary to get the business accomplished.  A leader is more likely (Read the rest of the entry…)

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Book Review: The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership

The subtitle of Maxwell’s book is “Follow Them, and People Will Follow You.”   Each time I read that, I hear a rejoinder in my head: “Don’t follow them, and people won’t follow you.” Revised and updated in 2007 for the 10th anniversary of The 21 Irrefutable Laws, this book is rightly regarded as a foundational piece of the leadership literature.

As the title indicates, Maxwell presents 21 laws of leadership, all of which are free-standing and yet buttressed by one another. You can learn a lot simply by reviewing the 21 laws with Maxwell’s brief explanation of each: (Read the rest of the entry…)

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The root of the rainmaking struggle?

How often have you heard (or perhaps even said) that only a select few lawyers are good rainmakers?  I hear it all the time, and though I agree that not everyone can be a world-class rainmaker, just about every lawyer willing to put in the effort can learn to bring in business.  A variety of pressures make business development challenging (lack of knowledge about what works and lack of time to do it being two pressures I’ll be addressing in next week’s free teleseminar Make the Time to Make the Rain), and at least one personality tendency: introversion.

I’ve worked with many clients who consider themselves to be introverts and who, therefore, hate doing the relationship-building that is the foundation of business development.  I love working with those clients, because I’m an introvert too, and I’ve learned plenty of strategies to make networking painless. 

A new book, 200 Best Jobs for Introverts, places law as (Read the rest of the entry…)

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